The power of becoming who you already are
A heart-centered exercise to change your reality
Most people try to change their lives by working harder, doing more, or trying harder. They think that when circumstances change, when they get better grades, have more money, feel less stress, they will finally be able to behave differently.
But real change works exactly the other way around. Your circumstances only change when you change. When you choose a new identity. When you decide who you are — and live as if that’s already true.
Not by putting pressure. Not by pushing yourself. But by choosing from your heart.
⊗ Your reality doesn’t change when you ‘re finally good enough .
♥ Your reality changes when you choose that you are already good enough.
Why identity determines everything
Your identity is the silent story you believe about yourself. It determines:
- how you appear in public,
- what choices you make,
- that you dare to trust,
- what you allow into your life.
And that identity always shows itself through your behavior.
Identity
I’m someone who always struggles
I am someone who grows
I am someone who is valuable
Behavior
Procrastination, stress, self-criticism
Show up, ask for help
Setting boundaries, choices from calmness
Result
Even more struggle
Progress and opportunities
Respect and abundance
So you don’t have to wait for “evidence”. You just have to be the version you already are.
The Identity Shift Exercise
10 minutes a day from your heart
Grab pen and paper. Take a deep breath. Put your hand on your heart. Feel your body, feel your presence. Exhale slowly. Continue breathing – slowly and consciously.
Step 1. Recognize your old identity
Write down:
“What identity am I holding on to now that keeps me small?”
For example:
- “I’m someone who is always behind”
- “I’m someone who has to be perfect first”
- “I am someone who needs luck to succeed”
- “I’m someone who never has enough money”
Be honest, not harsh.
Step 2. Choose your new identity
Close your eyes and ask:
“Who do I want to be? Who am I deep down already?”
Write down one powerful identity statement – from love – for example:
- “I am someone who grows and flourishes”
- “I am someone who is supported and led”
- “I am someone who attracts abundance”
- “I am someone who lives present and self-aware”
- “I am someone who creates opportunities by being who I am”
Choose one. Feel it. You don’t have to earn it – you can receive it.
Step 3. Behaviour from this new identity
Ask yourself:
“If I’m already this version, how do I behave from today onwards?”
Write down three concrete actions that fit your new identity. For example:
- Take five minutes of breathing and start resting instead of stressing.
- Talking to someone instead of waiting for someone to come to me.
- Taking a small step towards my dream.
- Don’t procrastinate, but start softly.
- Saying yes to an opportunity that feels exciting.
One small action is enough to shift the timeline.
Step 4. Embodiment
Say softly or silently:
“I am this version – now – I choose me”
And feel what is changing in your body.
What’s happening now
When you live from a heart-centered identity, something magical happens:
- You attract other opportunities and people
- You feel more peace and confidence
- You stop fighting and start receiving
- Your reality moves with you.
Not because you work harder, but because you will show up differently. You don’t have to force anything. You just have to be.
Your assignment for today
Ask yourself three times a day: “Who am I now?” and perform one of the three actions that come with this new identity.
Let the rest follow naturally. Good luck!
by Rosanne van Zalingen
Founder of BOOST The World
